Let’s face it… Disney movies are full of all kinds of things that aren’t just for kids. There are innuendos and jokes that only adults get. I’m honestly terrified sometimes that my daughter will pick up one of those lines and start using it! However, there are plenty of great and encouraging lines in those movies as well. One of my favorites recently is from The Lion King where Mufasa tells Simba “Believe in Yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.” Think about that for a second. How many times have you said you wanted to do something or had a dream and nobody thought you could do it? People maybe even tried to talk you out of it! For me, I can think of a pretty good number of those recently.
Sure, everyone is all sunshine and roses when it comes to beating cancer. Nobody ever says, “You can’t beat it” or “Good luck with that.” Your doctors might be more realistic but in general, that just isn’t the language used. After having my amputation and talking to folks about a prosthesis however, that changed. On forums, Facebook groups, my surgeon, the unbelievably few articles I found… everything and everybody said its almost impossible and so few people use one. (For those of you who know me, you know what hearing something like that does to me.) Well, I believed that I could prove them wrong. In fact, I KNEW that I could do it as I did more research and found the right people to surround myself with. Slowly but surely, more and more people came around and started to believe.
I’ve even seen a couple of posts from people getting and using a prosthesis after sharing my videos and triumphs! When I had my last appointment, my surgeon told me “You’re doing exactly what I told you that you wouldn’t.” He also had me take several passes down the hall and go up and down stairs while recording me doing it. Now I just need to quit breaking things on it so that I can use it more consistently. My therapist and I are even talking about trying steps without using any kind of crutches or walking sticks or anything. Just me. (With a railing on my right and her on my left to catch me of course if needed!)
The picture is of me during a walk that my mom took. This less than 3 months after my amputation and was during a 1 mile walk to raise money for cancer put on by a local hospital. When I told people that I wanted to work up to that, I think most thought I was crazy. (Yes I probably am.) Originally, we planned to bring my wheelchair so that if/when I got tired, I could sit down and wheel my way around. Well being the stubborn German that I am, I decided that I didn’t want to bring the wheelchair. I was going to give myself no choice to stop and sit down. And I did it. I paid for it the next day, but I did it.
Everyone has dreams, no matter how big or small, that they want to do. Things they want to accomplish. Maybe it is making a million dollars, maybe it is having a family, maybe it’s walking a mile, or it maybe it is just sitting up on the edge of the bed. Whatever it is, belief in yourself goes a long way and you won’t always have a group, or even one single person that actually believes in you, there by your side. YOUR belief is what will drive your determination to make it happen and eventually, everyone else will have no choice but to believe in you. Don’t let others get you down and convince you otherwise.